Infidelity

At least there are 8 reasons why the spouse cheats

Good man doesn’t mean to be perfect or never do mistake. This article is not to justify that cheating is right.  Cheating is wrong. However cheating is sinful and wrong.

There are some types of man who cheats. He doesn’t care how beautiful and kind his wife, he keeps cheating because  cheating with some women is ingrained. I will not discuss this type because it is useless  to give million theories and approach to find out the source of problem. There are only two options  to a woman who married with this type : survive and keep patient or leave him and starts a new life.

It becomes interesting for me when I observed that many good men and responsible enough to his family, but he cheats. When I made  some sessions of discussion and surveyed my close friends, I found the same reasons why a man cheated.

Please for women don’t think that I blame wives because they give less service to their husbands or give the responsibility to them about cheating that their husbands did. Absolutely not, the weakness of wives is not the good reason to cheat.

For all women who I love, let’s leave aside emotion and anger to cheating men and we try to think deeply. If we could prevent our husband to cheat, we must try hard, mustn’t  we?, So now we try to be empathies and try to understand that a husband is a strong human but he has weakness to express his feeling and emotion.

Why does a husband cheat? What does he look for?

- Sexual passionate. Many women say “I have served my husband as usual, and never refuse to make a love although tired.” Right, you do it, but the enthusiasm is going to decrease in marriage. 

Men need not just sex, but the excitement in the sexual activity itself. simply: He longs to feel desired men missing the feel of needed. What you have to lose serve her husband with enthusiasm and passion? Make him feel like a handsome prince who coveted all women , but you were chosen to be the consort to serve him in bed

Not Feeling Appreciated . Do not ever think that only women who love to be praised . Your husband needs to hear from your mouth , how great he is . No need to wait for him to do something extraordinary like you buy a new car or a diamond ring to praise him to the skies . Little things he does for you , deserves proper appreciation , and say that , looking at him  very close .

“Dad is great about repairing a broken laptop , but he is not a mechanic ... " There is no harm in telling this to your husband , even though he is doing just press the power button on the laptop , that you forgot to turn off and assume that it didn’t work.

Give compliments to your husband , before other women do .

- the loose of emotional activity in relationship. Don’t talk about need of children and household that never finish

Find interesting topic of conversation and passionate. Men will be happy to make   women impressed. Let him talk and say how smart he is.

Never surprised why many educated men cheat with casual women. Men will feel admired  with casual women.  It’s something that has missed very long. He stared me in a minute

I often stare my husband with amaze while I am thinking about how could the calm man fall in love with a woman who is tomboy and not patient enough?. Maybe because of my long stare…..(it’s over convidence)

- he deserves praise in front of people. Women will be happy when men stare and give praise in front of people and so does men but different way. Women often forget that men also deserve praise in front of people.

Men want to feel like Numero Uno for women. The best way is giving him praise in front of people, among his friends or family in formal or non formal event with good way.

I always say and that is true that “my husbands gives me the best affection and  to my children.” When I say it in front of people he feel very happy and so do I.

- keep the style inteseting. Men is visual creature. No need to dress full of make up like a princes, but men think that women is the source of beauty and inspiration. It is very good  when women keep the good style and fragrant. When husbands come back you must wear good dress and longing smile. The hero is home….make him wants to stay home and be with you.

The world is unfair sometime. when men cheat they feel innocent “those are men who always cheat” people always say, but when women cheat they get many critics because women are like perfect creature who are always faithful and serve men.

There are many cheating reasons both men and women do. Almost same but they have difference, the reasons why women also cheat their couple are

They often quarrel

no woman likes quarrel with her couple. when the cause of quarrel is men, woman will feel angry. It’s not wonder when woman look for comfortable place. When another man come and make her comfortable, woman fixated with that man.

Man is too possessive

Too possessive man sometime makes woman angry. He is always suspicious, negative thinking or think that woman back to former boyfriend. Woman is more patient than man but when man is always suspicious every day, who wants to stand? When man always suspicious, woman will really cheat.

Long distance relationship

Distance  always becomes a reason for man and woman to cheat. When boyfriend or girlfriend is not in same place, the risk to cheat without getting caught more feasible. Long-distance relationship also has the challenge because they miss each other and want to meet  soon. sometimes  , it makes woman to forget her boyfriend far away.

Woman got no affection from her boyfriend

Woman is a creature who always want to get affection and attention. Many woman are brave to cheat because their boyfriends didn’t give them any affection and attention at all. While she finds another man more handsome and give her affection better than before, automatically man can make her feel happy and fill the empty heart.

Take revenge

Some women cheat because they want to take revenge to their boyfriends. “ if he can cheat, so does woman.”  Taking revenge will make woman satisfied, finally she can hurt herself and her new boyfriend whom she cheat with. Sometimes taking revenge is not always happy ending 

By : Novie Eviany